To Seem or to Be

Which is more important . . . to seem or to be? What if someone is 100% good/right about something internally, but they don't outwardly convey that? What if someone seems how they should be but they really aren't? We want to believe that time and consistency will uncover the true nature of people, but what if that isn't true? What if someone will always be a person who feels the right way inside but cannot express it? We can't live inside of each other. So it is as important to act as we are as to be as we are or should be.